"the importance of grief communities"

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As the second anniversary of my mom’s passing came and went, I ended the day feeling deeply grateful—not just for those in my life who reached out, but also for the support of the grief community. While a few core individuals let me down, I’ve come to accept that I won’t always receive the same care and consideration that I offer to others. I'm also sure many people don’t see much significance in these anniversaries. Ultimately, I know that when it comes down to it, at least my mom knew I was thinking of and honoring her that day.

But even when I clearly express the simple ways I’d like to be supported in my grief, I’ve learned that not everyone will show up as I hope. Is it okay? No, of course not. But I can't carry anger or disappointment with me. Rather than dwelling on resentment, I choose to focus on those who showed up—the ones I expected and even the ones I didn’t, including those behind usernames.

Sometimes, the deepest and most genuine support comes from people who truly understand—those who have walked the same path of grief and know what it means to face these hard anniversaries. You may not know them in person, but their kindness and generosity transcend that distance.

Find a community that will show up for you in ways others won’t or can’t. Among the bereaved, there is an abundance of love and selflessness. Despite their own pain, they continue to support, encourage, and embrace those who need it most.

To those who supported me on such a meaningful day—thank you. I am deeply grateful for your kindness.

-j